Graffiti Stems for BACN Coaching Collaborative Meeting:
“Mentor relationships vs. Coaching relationships”
What are the essentials of a mentoring/ coaching relationship?
· Trust **
· Time to reflect together
· Space and safety (to “fail forward”)
· Ability to truly listen
· Relationship building
· Thought partnering
· Question asking (safe, encouraged)
· Encouraging self-reflection
· Building an authentic relationship
· Giving compliments as well as suggestions and next steps
· Talk time
· Mutual respect
· Growth mindset
· Openness to giving / receiving feedback
· Clear intentions-the purpose being improving one’s practice so kindness as well as accountability both matter
· Desire to work together at the “growing edge”
· Time and space to allow ideas to flourish
· Clear, open communication
· Expertise if mentoring
Is there a difference between mentoring and coaching?
· You can coach a peer or someone in leadership but mentoring often implies older/ more experienced
· In working this out- coaching is more direct, mentoring is more reflective, passive………To build on this….. more global, Big picture as teaching is a profession-so includes Habits of Mind of teaching, or stances to sustain you through the years
· Yes, maybe mentoring is ongoing, more long-term
· Different connotations, I think… Mentoring implies that one person is the expert, the possessor of knowledge. Coaching= more collaborative, supportive, coming from a questioning stance.
What is coaching?
· Active, direct, evaluative?
· Advice for improvement
· Teaching something specific
· Can be short term
· Helping people become their best selves
· Learning in a safe environment
· Try new things
· Become more reflective and self-aware
· Can be individual or collaborative
· Teaching new strategies or techniques
· Deciding jointly on a goal/ focus area to learn about
What is mentoring?
· Guiding a new teacher/ novice in the hopes that they become independent and collaborative
· Taking a stance that instructs someone with less experience
· If you are a “mentor” you ask that the person(s) you are mentoring emulate you or your work in some way. You do this by modeling usually, but could also include discussions, providing resources, etc.
· There seems to be a teaching component to mentoring
· A more side by side experience… has many forms: modeling, counseling, answering questions, encouraging
· Yes- working together
· Varies depending on the skill level/ experience of both the mentor and mentee
· A relationship where learning and growth can happen for both the mentor and mentee